Our bodies talk to us all the time, and often with pain.

It may be a sharp pain, it may be stabbing pain, it could be a dullness or numbness, or it can be a really quite uncomfortable pain, this is your body’s way to communicate to you and it’s saying, “Hey, I’m not okay!”

I want to show you the steps to understand what your body is saying to you with pain so that you can begin to learn tools to heal yourself and begin your journey toward health.

You can read through or skip down to watch the video below.

How to Understand What The Body Is Saying With Pain

Locate Your Pain

In working with my clients, the first thing I want to establish is, where is their pain?

So ask yourself right now, where is your pain? Take out a piece of paper and write it down.

Close Your eyes, scan your body and work out, where is my pain?  What’s my body trying to tell me?

Map it out. Write it down, work out where your pain is and describe it.

Describe Your Pain

Describe if your pain is sharp, stabbing, or it feels numb.

Describe how it feels and how it makes you feel. Write that down as well.

If you’ve got sharp pain in your pelvis and every time you walk, it really hurts you, what’s the feeling, the emotion that is stored at a deeper level?

It might be frustration, it might be anger, it might be sadness, it might just be annoyance.

Once you know what that feeling is, you can get an idea of when the pain first started.

Reflect Back on When the Pain Began

When you know the emotion underneath the pain, ask yourself when was the first time that this emotion was felt in your life?

For example, if it’s anger and you feel really angry about your pain, then let’s explore anger.

When’s the first time that you noticed anger? How old were you? Were you were a child? Were you were a little girl, a little boy?

Was there a time that you were so angry and you didn’t know how to process it?

Once you get a memory of that, you may realise that, actually these emotions are what’s causing the pain in our bodies.

Often, we have emotions that we didn’t know how to process, we weren’t able to voice, and we didn’t know what to do with, so they got stored in our bodies and became blockages. Often, this happened when we were little. They started when we were quite small and we just didn’t know how to express these emotions.

We didn’t know what to say, so we swallowed them and they started to hang out in our bodies.

When these emotions get stored in our bodies, the body becomes stuck and blocked and can experience pain in those areas, the body is trying to talk to us to say, “Hey, there’s something going on here. It feels like there’s something stored here. It’s creating blockage in the nervous system and I want you to have a look at it.”

What happens mostly is that we didn’t know or were taught how to process our emotions, we didn’t get a rule book of how to look at our body or how to understand it, so we started just to look at the pain as something separate to our feelings.

Connect Your Pain to Your Emotions

When I work with people with the Spinal Flow technique, I look at integrating all parts: the mind, the heart, and the body.

What I find is, behind or underneath each pain there is a stored emotion as well. It’s quite easy and fast to fix musculoskeletal pain: if you have a fall, generally it heals itself, but when there’s pain that’s been there for a long time, often there’s layers and layers and layers and some of these deeper, deeper layers and layers of emotions.

Start to have a look at that now and work out for yourself, what is underneath your pain?  What’s the emotion underneath it?

Have you experienced this emotion before?

Now is the time to investigate your pain..

Audit Your Pain

My biggest thing with Spinal Flow is, I want to teach you to become your own doctors.

You have everything inside you to heal your body and I want to show you how you can find and unlock that, so you have the tools to heal yourself.

It starts with actually really doing a bit of an audit.

Ask yourself, what’s my body telling me? Where is my pain? What does the pain feel like? What’s the emotion underneath it? Was there a previous time that I noticed this emotion?

And then allow that emotion to come in the body so it no longer has to be blocked.

I want to help you.

I help many, many people with pain and I help them decrease or eliminate it and the first thing we do is, is to understand it more.

I want you to know that if your body is showing pain, it’s because it’s trying to tell you something.

Let’s take that cue and start listening to our bodies so we can have a different relationship with our body.

We can learn to listen and be really powerful in our own healing process.

Yours in health and healing,




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Carli Axford

Author Carli Axford

I’m a Healer, Chiropractor, Retreat Facilitator, Meditation Instructor as well as the Founder and Trainer of the Spinal Flow Certification Program.

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